The day before yesterday we did the women’s workshop, last night we did the men’s workshop… and tonight we have Women and Men’s workshop. There is no strict distinction between the genders; men also participated in the women’s workshop and two women participated in the men’s workshop last night, making it a group of twelve people.
The Men’s workshop last night was titled “I love this kind of person”, and the purpose was to gain self-insight into the image of the person you feel good about, and by comparing it to that of others, to deepen our understanding of how our own standards of thinking and judgment differ from those of others. I guess it’s about knowing yourself.
Most people understand that their own standards of judgment are natural and common sense. But the truth is that everyone’s criteria for making that decision is different. If you don’t understand this, you won’t be able to have a good dialogue.
If you talk with logic, the criteria are different for each person, so the logic tends to be incompatible with each other. However, if you speak with feelings, it is natural that each person’s feelings are different and the dialogue is based on mutual differences, so misunderstandings due to differences in assumptions are less likely to occur.
So, the main purpose of the workshop was to shift the dialogue from a dialogue of logic to a dialogue of feelings. A man who thinks his naturalness is the same as everyone else’s can easily make it difficult to understand each other and cause others to dislike him by forcing his naturalness on people with logic. In order to avoid this, I hope that men who are likely to talk with logic will learn to talk with their feelings.
Incidentally, having a woman among the men is a great way to understand that, and to realize the difference. What I mean by not strictly dividing the genders… that’s what I mean.
Originally posted on September 11, 2020
English text translated with DeepL (Japanese to English) and checked by Mina.