At the women’s workshop the day before yesterday and the men’s workshop last night, we did “I hate this person.” The idea of the workshop was to write down a profile of someone you don’t like, why you don’t like them, and the episode that caused it, and share it with others.
Whenever we have a problem, we tend to blame the other person. This may be because we unconsciously believe that the other person is the cause of our difficulties and that changing or eliminating the other person will end the problem. This may be anger, disgust, hatred, or sadness, but whatever it is, it is definitely the result of your unconscious emotions. In that sense, your emotions caused by the problems with the other person are your own problem.
Therefore, before you decide to change or eliminate the other person, understand the problem as a problem of your own mind, and you may eventually not feel the problem as a problem, or the other person may change before you know it. The human mind is a paradox.
So, yesterday was a training workshop on focusing on your own emotions. By the way, everyone seemed to have noticed that there are some common elements in the image of people they dislike, such as being bossy, uncaring, imposing their values, narrow-minded, bad-mouthing others, etc. If you have the opposite attitude, you can avoid being disliked.
The photo shows curry and rice for lunch after the women’s workshop.
Originally posted on February 12, 2021
English text translated with DeepL (Japanese to English) and checked by Mina.